Better that dealing with the angst that comes with them being together in the same place

Anonymous:

My parents have been divorced for six years now, I have surpressed a lot of my feelings of the divorce but I do that with all my feelings. I just became an Eagle Scout and we are planning for the court of honor which is where they give me my award. My parents don’t like each other and it’s really awkward when they are together. My did is the main person who is involved with me in Boy Scouts. We have had a couple of meetings and my mom hasn’t been invited to any. Will it always be awkward?

teenofdivorce:

Understandably, I’m guessing you want both of your parents to be at your court of honor meetings although it was primarily your dad that was involved with your Boy Scout process. A lot of families have systems where one parent attends one function and another parent attends another, which, although it does suck to have only one parent there for some things, it is better that dealing with the angst that comes with them being together in the same place, right?

The main goal for anyone with divorced parents is to understand that they need to separate themselves from the issues of their parents; so if one of your parents aren’t present for something that you wanted them to see you be a part of, it is not because they aren’t proud of you, but because of their personal issues with seeing your other parent.

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